In writing this book, you are quite transparent … Putting your business out there? Why write a book like this?
I made the decision to write this book as a seed was planted by one of my professors at Borough of Manhattan Community College over 20 years ago. He told me to write a book to share my challenges and accomplishments to encourage others. It took me this long to believe in myself and feel that I had accomplished enough to share my story with others. I also recognized that one of my purposes here on earth is to help others and expand the kingdom of God. Sharing my story “Finally Reid” is to encourage others who have faced difficult situations. Despite your circumstances and challenges, you can overcome and live a purpose driven life. “Your latter days can be better than your former days.”
How long did it take you to write the book? What was the process like?
Many years but it wasn’t until 2009 after an accident that I got really serious. It was a difficult process as I had to relive some very painful periods in my life. At times, I had to stop and take a break for several weeks, even months. Once I was able to get through those painful periods and write about them – it was like a healing process. Writing this book helped me to heal, forgive others and myself.
Why the title “Finally Reid”?
Finally Reid is about the relationship with my father and recognizing that he actually loved me. It’s about finding me and being liberated from my ex-husband. It’s about recognizing the goodness of God and that he was always taking care of me, even when I did not realize that he was there for me.
Despite your financial struggles. How did you manage to gain an Ivy League Education?
It’s really important to have a mentor or a professor that takes an interest in your future. In my case Professor Blake asked a question “What next?” He advised me that since I was a bit mature for a college student, it’s best to go to an Ivy League school. He also felt that with my grades? I would be able to get scholarships. He advised me that even if I had to take out school loans, an Ivy League education would provide the means to repay. I took his advice and was able to get scholarships. I received a full scholarship from NYU. I also took out students loans.
Tell us about your invisible disability…ADD. How do you do all that you have done with this condition?
Living with ADD is a daily struggle but there are many brilliant people out there with this condition. In fact, there are over 80 million Americans who are living with this condition undiagnosed. If you do a Google search, you will see all the talented, brilliant and prestigious Americans who have or had ADD. It wasn’t until 2007 that I got formally diagnosed and it took me a while to share with others for fear of how others would judge me. I don’t take medication. Over the years, I have developed coping strategies to manage on a daily basis. I have a daily list that helps me to stay focused and organized.
Despite all these challenge? What kept you going?
I was motivated by a few things… My son and wanting the best for him. My Faith in God and believe it or not, some negative comments from others. I was told that since my mother was a maid, I would not amount to anything. I had to show them that they were wrong. I also believed that “No weapons formed against me shall prosper.” I know that what’s in my future is better than my past.
The goal of this book is to help others, share the goodness of God and sell enough books to help churches and non profit organizations and if my book becomes a best seller… That would be an added bonus. A movie would be great!! Anything is possible. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”